Good girls rebel
While many families suffer when their children enter their teenage years and rebel, Ms. Sam, in Ho Chi Minh City, is confident that she can The two children were obedient and listened closely to their parents.
Her two children, an 11-year-old son and a 15-year-old daughter, are always under the strict control of their parents. From studying, playing, friends to dressing, both of them are the best parents” and rarely argue back or do anything wrong.
“You two very good sisters” is her catchphrase Sam often talks about her child as an affirmation of how raise your children.
For my eldest daughter, I often say that she is tall and tall. like a child, innocent, gentle, not competitive, not involved in love affairs like the teenage children that she often brings up and accuses her of having “a broken eye, it’s so bad” that if she hits her child, she will deal with it on the spot.
Then one day the mother She was stunned when her younger sister, a university student, sent her a series of photos of a group of female students stripping naked and smoking e-cigarettes. The younger sister asked: “Look closely to see if it’s Hang from our house?”.
Ms. Sam was dumbfounded when she recognized her daughter in those photos. The girl stripped herself, then put on only a thin white shirt with the buttons undone, blue eye makeup, purple lips, a cigarette hanging from her mouth, playing with smoke. The whole group of students took pictures in reclining positions, inciting rebellion.
Her sister discovered the photos were shared in a closed group of young people.
When Ms. Sam asked, I did not deny, argue, or answer. The first time a mother saw her child… dared to be silent and show a careless attitude when she asked. In a fit of rage, she rushed in, pulled her hair, tore her shirt, and slapped her daughter in the face.
Her long-standing pride in the image of a “good daughter” collapsed, leading the mother-daughter relationship to fall into a deadlock crisis.
Mrs. Nguyen Thi Thanh Thuy, President of the Mothers’ Association shared during her work Encountering many cases where children are very obedient and obedient to their parents like that.
In silence one day it may be via the network Society‘s parents were shocked when they discovered their child was “rebellious” in a different form. It can be the act of showing off one’s body, fighting, cursing, smoking, addiction, love, sex… Those are things that never appear in parents’ thoughts about their children.
Who are you next to your parents?
Recently, a clip shows a middle school girl in Ho Chi Minh City smoking cigaretteshit friend in the toilet’s shocking release on the internet. Also from this clip, many parents were startled about another “hidden corner” of their children. Those children, like many of their friends, wear their uniforms to school every morning and wear red scarves to be good children…
An obstetrician in Ho Chi Minh City said he encountered many cases of parents taking their children A teenage girl had an abortion in surprise: “My child is so good, why is he pregnant?.
They said they controlled their children very tightly, following them wherever they went, taking them to school and picking them up home without any hesitation. They are satisfied because their children are very obedient and never dare to go against their parents’ wishes.
While a 5-6 month pregnant child has a big belly that surpasses the new parents or their child has done “adult things”. And there are many other terrible things that parents cannot imagine about their children’s world.
According to him, family relationships are facing the reality that many times when parents and children are together, it is like they are in two strange worlds. The two sides completely lack sharing, communicating, exchanging, listening….
He warned that good children in the eyes of their parents may be the children who encounter many difficulties and instability and are most likely to rebel. In daily interactions, they may endure the control imposed by their parents, not having the opportunity to converse and express themselves.
On the outside, children create an obedient shell like their parents want to leave them alone. . But when they encounter a free space, they will “let go” to release their pent-up frustrations…
Not to mention that obedient children who obey their parents’ standards often lose the ability to recognize facing right and wrong, resisting, so it is easy to fall.
When we get home, we just want to hear “Are you okay”?
Among the many evils related to children, we often hear parents say they can save their lives. : “My child is very good at home!”. They are not wrong when they say that the highest goal of many Vietnamese parents in raising their children is for them to be obedient.
Parents’ concerns are partly answered through the sharing of Kim Ngan – a young girl from An excellent student who failed in gaming for many years ran away from home, stole, and once thought of killing someone – in a program about game addiction with young people in Ho Chi Minh City.
Ngan said that many of her friends at her age appear to be very obedient, diligent and study well, but behind is a “secret world”. They play games, smoke, commit violent acts, have sex in public, have abortions…
The girl realized that she and many of her friends had one thing in common. When they entered the house, they faced loneliness. My parents only scolded me, threatened me, and made all kinds of judgments.
The words children hear the most from their parents are urging them to study hard and then criticizing them for comparing them to “other people’s children”… They cannot share and describe the difficulties and mistakes they encounter. right with parents.
“Sometimes I long to listen to my dad Mom asked me if I’m okay, is there anything sad? Can we give you any support?” the girl said with tears in her eyes.
Many children like Ngan are alone in their homes right next to their parents. As for parents, they worry a lot about their children and love them very much, but it turns out that sometimes they don’t know anything about their children or are always the last to know about their children’s problems.
* The names of the characters in the article have been changed
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