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Psychological examination at the Department of Psychology at Children’s Hospital
Recently, many parents have rushed to take their children to be examined at the Department of Psychology at Children’s Hospital 1 2 and Binh Dan Hospital because they think their children are sexually deviant. and recommend completely treating this “disease”.
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At the Department of Psychology at Children’s Hospital, 2 girls N.T.L… (13 years old) were brought to the examination by their family in the way they dressed and behaved. talk about “standard men”. L also told BS that he is currently dating another girl and has made his relationship public with everyone. According to his family, since he was a child, L did not show any unusual signs, he liked to play with cooking dolls and liked to braid his hair. However, after a family incident in which his father lost his job and became drunk and often beat and cursed his wife and children, L began to change. L despises his father and thinks he is a son to protect his family. L cut his hair short and liked to wear hip hop clothes and told his family that he wanted to live as husband and wife with his new girlfriend.
An opposite case of L.T.T – 15 year old male, District 10, HCMC, married by his family took him to the doctor because his voice was slurred and unmanly. Although T is 1,69 meters tall and weighs 62kg, he walks effeminately. Through family investigation, since he was 5 years old, T lived with his mother because his father was busy working far away. Because he was always by his mother’s side and was so well protected by his mother, T was infected with his mother’s personality without even knowing it.
Similar to L.T.T, 9 year old boy N.H.T but only likes to play with dolls and dance and sing, she only likes to play with boys and hates anyone calling her a boy. When I asked, I found out that T’s parents were working and stayed at home to play with the maid and only hung around with his 3 older sisters. Even T’s clothes to wear at home are used by her parents to use her clothes. Gradually, T only likes to play girls’ games like jumping rope and selling makeup…
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Are the above cases gender biased? According to Dr. Thai Thanh Thuy – Head of the Department of Psychology at Children’s Hospital 2, determining whether a child is gender deviant is not only based on external appearance. The majority of suspected cases brought to the hospital for examination have no problems.
So why does the above phenomenon occur? According to experts, sexual deviation in adolescents is no longer a rare phenomenon today when Vietnam is in an open culture period. All of the children whose gender was questioned by their families were mostly at an age where their personalities had not yet been formed and were easily imitated by idols and easily manipulated… so in many cases the children themselves were skeptical about their gender. your real. It is worth mentioning that the lack of understanding of parents’ incorrect behavior has contributed to children’s gender disorders, pushing them to a more severe deviant state.
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From suspicion no Few parents have scolded, forbidden, and said many things that hurt their children. A typical case recounted by doctors in the Department of Psychology: Since the day a Korean movie was shown on Binh Duong station, Ms. V in District 8, Ho Chi Minh City, has seen her son… different. For example, instead of dressing casually, her daughter is more groomed. The t-shirts and jeans she bought for me have never seen my son wear before. Instead, I asked my mother for money to buy flashy floral T-shirts.
Accidentally checking in Ms. V’s child’s desk drawer, she discovered There are many perfumes and makeup powders. At this time, Ms. V affirmed with absolute certainty: My child is “gay”. Feeling tormented and researching online, Ms. V decided to take her child to be examined and “completely” treated for this disease. After checking, the doctor confirmed that her son is still a “real man” and currently idolizes a Korean actor, so he deliberately imitates this actor’s style of clothing, hair, and gestures.
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< /span>Another case named Nguyen Thanh T, a 10th grade student at Nguyen An Ninh High School, District 10, Ho Chi Minh City. Just because T didn’t have a boyfriend and often hung out with a group of girls, T’s father banned him and shouted: “Are you crazy?”. From then on, T began to think and often observe the boys. When talking with consultants, T. kept asking: “Are you really crazy?”
< p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN:0 0 0"> Dr. Nguyen Thanh Nhu – andrology expert recounted the following case: The hospital’s conclusion was that the child was normal, so the parents still didn’t believe it and took their child somewhere else for a checkup. After a while, they returned to Binh Dan Hospital and asked for another checkup. The hospital refused to examine him and the boy got angry: “You really want me to be gay, don’t you? I will be gay for you please.”
>According to doctors, most cases that come for examination are due to parents’ lack of understanding leading to suspicion. There are even parents who insist “he is not a man” even though the boy only has… phimosis.
Virtual gender examination!
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Statistics of the Department of Psychology at Children’s Hospital 2: In previous years, the department only had one or two cases of virtual homosexuals in the department each month, but recently there have been 2-3 cases coming in for examination each week. In just the first 2 months of the past year, Dr. Ha alone provided psychological consultation to nearly 20 virtual sex cases.
< p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN:0 0 0"> Similarly at Children’s Hospital 1, said Dr. Hoang Vu Quynh Trang – Department of Psychology. The number of virtual gay children coming to the clinic is increasing day by day. If in previous years, doctors only consulted 1-2 cases in a few months, in the last 2 years, on average, Children’s Hospital 1 has had 4-5 cases come for examination each month. A common characteristic of pediatric patients is that boys speak effeminately and dress like girls, and conversely, girls with haircuts dress like boys. Most of the children refused to challenge their self-image. Girls only like to play with girls who love their classmates; while boys think they are girls so they only like and play with boys.
According to Dr. Pham Ngoc Thanh – Children’s Hospital 1, this is a complex disorder for which no clear cause has been found. . In addition to the cause of hormonal or chromosomal abnormalities, people find that there are family problems such as the absence of a father or mother’s role in the family or parents with mental problems who cannot clearly state their roles. The roles of men and women for children.
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Normally children can recognize whether they are a boy or a girl from the age of 18 months. From 18-30 months old, most boys know they will become men and girls will become women and they want to imitate their same-sex father or mother. When you notice that your son likes to wear flowers and play with dolls in dresses and your daughter likes to play with superheroes and guns while wearing shorts with her shirt off, parents should stay calm and not panic and scold their children.
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Young Children under 3 years old often want to imitate the behavior of both sexes. According to a statistic published in the Nelson Pediatrics textbook in 2000, up to 22 8% of boys and 38 6% of girls like to have more than 10 acts of the opposite sex. This is normal development during the period when children want to explore and learn about both genders. Parents should not panic and punish their children nor should they criticize their children’s behavior.
Signs of gender deviation can be detected from the age of 3 in children with normal sexual development, with warning signs to pay attention to: Children do not know their gender. me when celebrating my 3rd birthday; Children always say they like the opposite gender; Children always deny their genitals; Children think that genitals of the opposite sex will develop in their bodies.
If you see one of the above signs, parents should take their child for a medical and psychological examination. . Both children and parents need to see a psychologist to get a medical history to learn about the child’s life in the womb, the relationships between family members and the parents’ health status to help. Children have a clear concept of their gender and improve their relationship with their parents.
In order for children not to deviate from gender, parents need to set an example for children to respect each other and use polite language and behavior towards each other.
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Children grow up by imitating adults. If a boy is gender skewed, the father needs to be close to his child to help him become a man with a responsible role in the family, take on heavy work and know the rules in the family and in society. festival. The mother should have the courage to separate from her son so that he can grow up and be independent. On the contrary, if the gender-skewed child is a girl, the mother has a big role in adjusting the child’s gender and setting an example for her daughter to become a gentle, responsible woman.
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Parents You should also help your child avoid the risks of gender bias by letting them wear gender-appropriate clothes, play gender-appropriate games, make friends with friends of the same gender before puberty, and not lower the value of their gender.< /p>
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