At present, Vietnam has not been able to control the gender gap at birth. The ideology of favoring men over women seems to still be deeply ingrained in many families from urban to rural areas.
Having to give birth to a son to continue the family line, motherhood no longer becomes a joy. proud anymore and having children became an obsession that caused many families to lose their homes.
N.T.T. (30 years old, from Hung Yen) is always a girl full of life, happy to work every day. Since she got married, she gave birth to two daughters, and recently, the third child was a girl. Her colleagues at the agency all saw the sadness on this girl’s face.
She With Lupus erythematosus, giving birth to a healthy child is precious, but intervening to give birth to a boy may still be difficult. This caused her and her husband to quarrel many times, but thinking of her child, she told herself to always be patient.
Unlike T., Mr. L.A.T. (Ha Dong, Hanoi) is the eldest son of a large family. For him, every holiday season or death anniversary in his family feels like a stone is being hung around his neck because he only has one daughter. His daughter has grown up, but giving birth to a second child is difficult. Not to mention, he was given an ultimatum by the whole family to have a son.
In 2022, after temporarily taking a leave of absence, salary for the couple to go for consultation and IVF artificial insemination, he and his wife had to go to Tu Du Hospital, Ho Chi Minh City for intervention. Due to the Covid – 19 epidemic, he and his wife could not return to Hanoi. The couple had to stay at the hospital for exactly 3 months to take care of their child. The cost, according to him, is not small, equal to a CX5 car.
As for N.B.P., a newly married rural girl, the couple has tried everything, from the West to the US. , however, having children is still out of reach. However, P.’s mother-in-law still insisted that she must give birth to a son. If you can’t give birth to a son, you don’t know how to give birth. If you can’t give birth, then you should divorce” P. sadly recounted.
The dilemma of many families falls into the situation of choosing which side to choose. causing the family to fall into a life-or-death situation.
The concept of having boys to “carry on the family line” has caused more boys to be born than girls, causing gender imbalance. Gender selection at birth is a violation of the law, but sanctions are imposed It is almost impossible to implement.
The 2003 Population Ordinance clearly states the prohibition of fetal gender selection in any form Population OrdinanceArticle 10Chapter IDecree No. 104/2003/ND-CP of the Government detailing and guiding the implementation of a number of articles of the Population Ordinance detailing and prohibiting acts of selecting the sex of the fetus .
According to the law, it is strictly prohibited to select the sex of the fetus, including: Propagating and disseminating methods of determining the sex of the fetus, diagnosing the sex of the fetus by using the following measures: determining through symptoms pulse; blood test amniotic fluid cells; supersonic….; Eliminate the fetus for sex selection reasons through abortion, use chemicals, drugs and other methods.
Penalties for violating regulations on gender determination diagnosis Fetal calculation is regulated as follows:
Fine from 3,000,000 VND to 5,000,000 VND for acts of divination to determine the sex of the fetus. Fine from 5,000,000 VND to 10,000,000 VND for taking the pulse or ultrasound or testing for a pregnant person to diagnose and disclose or provide information about the sex of the fetus, unless otherwise prescribed by law. different.
But the king’s permission still falls short of village law, but in most private clinics, gender selection at birth is no longer a strange thing. These are even considered indispensable services to serve customers.
Every day there are no shortage of cases where just because they value “the top, the bottom” without a son, they fight. Friends go in separate groups to give birth to boys and girls to sit and drink beer together.
Somewhere there are still mothers-in-law and conservative husbands who have to give birth to a son even though their family is poor for four years. child’s face. And somewhere there are still many women who are looked down upon because they cannot give birth to sons, are called deaf trees who cannot give birth… always silently suffering for the sake of family happiness.
Stories like the above seem to be There are only many in feudal society, but the painful reality is that in modern society, this ideology still reigns in many families from rural areas to urban areas, from those who have not studied much to the intellectual classes.</ p>”
