Here are 3 main developmental milestones in a boy’s life that parents need to remember.
1. Stage 1: From birth to 6 years old
A child is a child, regardless of whether they are male or female. They like adults to play with, hold and talk to. They are simply looking for attention.
But when he grows up, he discovers the world around him through different activities and parents need to help their children in this. These are things parents should pay attention to in the early stages of their child’s development.
If the mother goes through a period of depression. Feelings will affect the child because the love of life is passed from mother to child.
Boys need their parents’ participation in their development. The mother plays a key role in love and care. This is very important because children need to feel loved and confident.
The role of the father is also important equally important. That will be the person the child wants to be, from whom they learn what is good and what is bad.
A mother’s love is unconditional. Mother loves her son just because he is her son. But a father’s love is completely different. It needs to be proven by good job reasonable behavior. That’s how boys will learn about ethics and basic principles. If the balance is not kept properly a boy will grow up and become a dictator or someone who only thinks about himself.
2. Stage 2: From 6 to 13 years old
This is the age when boys begin to recognize their gender and learn some “childish” games. The presence of parents during this stage of development is extremely necessary.
Parents should not try Protect your child from aggressive and masculine activities and accept his new interests. Respecting your child’s masculinity encourages the development of independence and a sense of adventure. If a boy wants to play with a toy gun or a violent game he will find a way to play even if you forbid it.
Respect your son’s individuality because there is no boy which are the same. There are many ways to express masculinity and of course it is extremely normal for a boy to not be interested in girly activities or games anymore.
Encourage your child’s diverse interests. Many parents want their children to have the same interests as themselves. But encouraging children to participate in a variety of activities will enrich their lives and help them appreciate freedom of choice.
Parents should not have expectations based on gender issue. Scientists say that boys who are not stuck in gender roles are more independent, more open and more sexually capable than others
Teaching your children to cope with criticism. Teach your children how to stand up for themselves without being too aggressive.
3. Stage 3: From age 14 onwards
This is the stage when your boy becomes a teenager. This period is difficult because hormonal activity causes boys to become angry and even aggressive. The best way is to direct this energy to the right place.
Parents need to help their children take responsibility for their behavior yourself because responsibility does not come naturally it must be taught. The key to teaching responsibility is making sure your child understands an important fact: Power privileges and responsibility go together. When responsibility is high, the other exists. When responsibility is low, the other two things are also reduced.
Give children the opportunity to establish their own identity. Parents should give their children more independence unless they see them with bad friends.
Regulate rules and discipline in advance. There should be rules about what your child can do and strict punishments if they break them. Otherwise, it will be very difficult for you to explain why you punished your child for doing something.
Most importantly, parents still have to act as role models for their children. No matter how you teach your children, if you do the opposite, the teachings become worthless. Set a good example and raising children will become much easier.
